Many conservative evangelical women have led their marriage to a healthier place by following Jesus and learning to love well. The classic conservative marriage testimony that I have repeatedly heard from women often goes like this: “Our marriage was a mess. I (wife) started lovingly submitting to my husband, then he started leading our family in love, and now we have a much happier, healthier marriage.” Let the reader understand the irony of this statement. The wife initiated submission in her marriage, but the husband is praised for his leadership. The greatest racket of conservative white evangelism is that the husband is praised for being a “leader” when he responds with love to his wife’s submission.