The Bad, the Good, and the Beautiful
Romans 8:28 is a frequently quoted, beautiful verse often used in very harmful ways: In all things God works for the good of those who love him. Though God does work in all things for the good of those who love Him, God’s goodness should never be used to justify or diminish suffering.Continue reading →
Different AND Equal: One Woman’s Journey from Complementarian to Egalitarian
Why did I avoid wrestling with egalitarian theology for so long? A weird stew of several factors: desire to be objective, rejection of secular white feminism, result of my circumstances, propensity towards self-flagellation, and fear of becoming a feminazi.
Life under Patriarchy: Death by a Thousand Cuts
Examining the wounds of my past is part of my journey towards healing. Wound-care is often messy and uncomfortable.
Finding My Voice (in the wilderness) – Part 2
Sometimes I think I’m done writing for awhile, and then I stumble across something that reminds me of all the pain still trapped inside. This week I stumbled upon an article on social media entitled A Southern Baptist Pastor’s Plea: Please Listen, and I started bleeding again. Watching a complementarian man receive praise for “listening”…
Age of Patriarchy: Desire of Woman & Rule of Man
When Adam and Eve chose the rule of humankind over the rule of God, they tragically ushered in the Age of Patriarchy.
The Apostle Paul Led Me Out of Patriarchy
Three influential factors that led me out of complementary/patriarchal theology: the racism inherent in allowing white women to teach BIPOC men overseas but not white men in our own churches,…
Love & Submit ≠ Husbands Lead, Wives Submit
Jesus teaches the foundation of Christianity is for all believers to “Love God” and “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Later, Paul expounds that love includes mutual submission: “Submit to one…
The difficulty of holding the tension of seemingly opposed truths create many of the dividing forces between different sects of Christianity. Danger arises when you cling too tightly to one…
Heaven & Hell on Earth
Would being in heaven with a God you hate be hell?
The False Dichotomy of Truth & Love
In my former corner of Christianity, sermons often pitted truth and love against each other because of a poor interpretation of Eph 4:15:
Patriarchy: Porn & Purity Culture (and a book plug)
This past month, I’ve been part of a pre-launch group for She Deserves Better. The group dialogue has led me to reflect on my own complex history with purity culture.…
Sex Idol: Where Evangelicals Worship & Women are Sacrificed
In white evangelicism, the fanaticism, money, & extrabiblical rules that revolve around sex scream idol worship and the humanity of women is sacrificed on its altar. The evangelical message that…
Sexual Healing in the Song of Songs
I wanted to share specific ways I found sexual healing in Scripture as a woman raised in a Christian culture that overwhelming focuses on male sexual desire.
Spiritual Discussion Guide
I’ve facilitated hundreds of bible studies over the years, in many different cultural settings, both for people who identify as Christian and those who don’t, who are seeking spiritual answers.…
Craft and Conversation Table
A resource for community building, easily adjusted to meet group needs. We live in a culture of loneliness, paradoxically plagued by oversharing in digital spaces and trivial conversation in our…
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Language: Labels & Longing
Musings on why I do not love the label egalitarian.
Rule & Desire Revisited
This article is a follow-up to an earlier post, Age of Patriarchy: Desire of Woman & Rule of Man.
Finding My Voice (in the wilderness) – Part 1
Living in “complementarian” spaces was death by a thousand cuts. It can be hard to articulate, because each cut on its own sounds petty. Also, some of my pain is…
The Prude or Slut Conundrum in Evangelical Spaces
Did God design women to be less sexual than men? Or do we live in a culture that shames women to behave like prudes?
“Married Sex” Lacks Strong Biblical Exegesis
A book review of Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta. (For more articles related to the problematic content of this book, see The Prude or Slut Conundrum in…